Jen Yih10 Comments

The Quarter Life Crisis

Jen Yih10 Comments
The Quarter Life Crisis

I turned 25-years-old this past June.

The thing about turning a quarter of a century old means you're no longer a kid and hardly an adult.

We're stuck somewhere in that limbo age of letting go of the teenage-college-like antics and really starting to give a sh*t about things like our society, children, that IKEA thing you actually put together, and your credit card debt. Some of us 25-year-olds are married, maybe a first or second child on the way, or some put their career first and are climbing the corporate structure buying new cars and putting down payments on the first home. As you can see, many 25-year-olds are zigging and some are zagging, putting energy into different areas. 

So, is the quarter-life-crisis a real thing? As you look around at what everyone else is doing & the pressure to get into a serious relationship or buy a property or be at a certain level in your career starts to really boil - we come to a crossroads. We're young, young enough to take a serious risk. There's enough time to break-up your unsatisfying relationship and plenty of time to rebuild a new one. There's enough time to back out of the car payment or mortgage and wait another five years. There's enough time to quit your boring job and pursue what you dreamt of doing as a kid. There's enough time to save and travel without missing someone or abandoning people. Because let me tell you, when you decide to have a mid-life crisis at 35-40 - finding yourself stuck in an unideal relationship in a house you never wanted with kids that take up 90% of your time you're going to wish you told your 25-year-old self to quit what you're doing, pack up your things, travel the world, and pursue your dreams freely & without blame. 

There's a lot of pressure that comes directly out of college to attain "success" whether that be financial, relational, or professional. But you, 25-year-old, are, in fact, very young & the youngest you'll ever be today and it is not too late to do what you have always wanted to do. The people or things holding you back are made up in your mind & the ones that really matter will support and love you no matter where or what you're doing in the world. So, taking that risk now, may in the long term, be the most responsible thing you ever do. And that family, house, spouse, profession that you'll have some day might thank you later for being solid, fulfilled, and grounded - you won't be the one waking up saying "I wish I had done this or wish I could've been that". 

So, as you find yourself in crisis - enjoy it because it is going to get a lot calmer from here.