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I Give You Permission

Jen YihComment
I Give You Permission

Since I started writing articles & opened up shop @ jenyih.com, I started with the intention of writing how I really felt, what I really think, and what I really experience. There's no fluff, no censorship, this website is unsponsored & I will never take advertising dollars to "boost" it. It's not about that. If you're reading this, it's because you chose to & came to it yourself. I want it and want you, to stay true and real and absolutely sincere. 

I call this article, "I Give You Permission" for several reasons.

I've received some notes, private messages, and e-mails asking me "How did you do it?" "What's the secret?" or "This is what I'm thinking of doing..." Some people inspire me as much as they say I inspire them, mentioning their upcoming Euro trip or backpacking Western Australia or chasing their dreams to become a filmmaker, actor, marathoner, so be it. It's wonderful. 

But for anyone else, sitting on the sidelines, playing the bench, waiting to be called to step up to the plate. I'm going to let you in on a big giant secret. No one and nothing is going to call on you. No one is going to give you permission to do what you want to do or become who you want to be. Inspiration, encouragement, compliments, motivational talks - they are all good things & will help stoke the fire that's already burning inside. But, the only person that is going to permit you to wildly chase the things that you are passionate about, is YOU.

Dear artist, turn those doodles into big gigantic paintings. Photographer, get out there and show your work. Athlete, get up and train. Traveller, sell those things for travel money, book the flight. Mother, make time for yourself so you can live by example to your kids. Whatever it is that you are or what you want to do, remember that everyone everywhere had to start somewhere. You've seen the documentaries of rags to riches of people in unthinkable circumstances become the greats or the people that move against the grain with the masses throwing stones & criticising their every move. But what's wrong with movies these days is that it shows a lifetime of struggle and hard work and pain and bliss and success take place in roughly and hour and 25 minutes.

Have patience.

Be kind to yourself.

Help other people.

Make time for your art or craft or skill.

Learn about things that have nothing to do with what you are and do.

Accept defeat. Listen to critiques.

But never lose sight of your vision, and stop every once in awhile to see how far you have come.

Give thanks and praise to yourself and the people that help lift you up so that you can do the same for them & others. 

If it counts for anything, I give you permission to go, to do, to become, to achieve.

and you know those cliche songs & quotes from all the memorable people in history...they are true.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”